I have lived in my flat for 5 years, its a housing association property. The couple who live in the flat upstairs from me own their flat and they seem to think it gives them some kind of precedence. Since I moved in they have never been very nice to me. I had NFH before, violent and noisy people and it took me 10 years and a whole load of health problems because of it before they were finally evicted and I was rehoused and I wanted to make a new start in a peaceful home.
Four years ago I met my fiance and he moved in with me just last year. A few weeks after he moved in (around September) my neighbour approached me and said that my dog had been fouling the communal gardens (he's 7 years old, so I already had him when I moved in and I always pick up after him). A lot of cats use the gardens as a toilet pretty regularly and some dogs too. She showed me where the fouling was and, although I was surprised that I had missed it, I apologised and cleaned it up. She called me dirty and disgusting which upset me but I didn't want to spark a confrontation so I let it be.
Since then I have stopped my dog going into the garden at all and he's walked 3 times a day. However, just before Christmas I saw the same neighbour putting something on the ground in front of our dustbin and when I went out to look there was a huge pile of animal faeces there. I knew it wasn't anything to do with my dog and stupidly assumed that she was cleaning up after all the cats (I've often had to do the same thing). It was my finace who pointed out that she had left it there deliberately but I suppose I didn't want to pursue it after everything I'd been through with my previous neighbours. That fight really left me exhausted (I'm sure many of you here have experienced yourselves how devastating it is) and I couldn't face another.
In January my fiance's family suffered a bereavement and my fiance was away for a week. During that week I found more faeces left on the path in front of my door. Sorry to be graphic but it wasn't fresh - it was dried so I knew it had to have been put there by someone. Again, stupidly, I let it go.
Then last week members of my family came to visit us and found a bag full of animal faeces dumped on our doorstep. I guess I finally snapped, went to their door and confronted them (I wasn't abusive I just asked them if they were responsible) and they admitted to it. They said that despite my being 'warned' by them before that the fouling had continued. I explained that it had continued because of the cats but they refused to listen, saying that it was my dog, that I am lazy, that I don't work and they do. They then called my fiance a racist name (he's Northern English?) and at that point I went inside and reported it to my housing officer who is going to visit them and has also informed our hate crime unit and the police.
The neighbours must have been informed that they've been reported because this morning she started a campaign of provocative behaviour - deliberately leaving our gate open (we have a polite notice asking people to close it because the postman and dustmen tend to leave it open and I worry that my dog could get out onto the road) and hoovering loudly at 6.30 am.
I've been thinking about their behaviour towards me since I moved in and its dawned on me that I've been bullied by them from the start - things like taking up all the space on the communal washing line (an elderly lady next door once pointed out to her that the lines weren't just for them and the NFH's reply was that she didn't see anyone's name on it), refusing to fix a leak that flooded my bathroom (they were forced to fix it in the end because it had got into my electrics and was dripping over my meter and fuse box) their apology was 'shit happens'.
I now feel worried that I did the wrong thing by reporting them but my fiance says they left us with little choice.
I felt anxious today for the first time in a very long time which is why I've turned to this site, you were all so helpful before and I valued the support very much. I'm under a different name now but I'm very grateful for you all.
I don't think I have it in me to go through a long war again, I just want peace and quiet. I've tried so hard to make sure that I and my dog never impact negatively on anyone - I know only too well what that's like.
Edited by ravenswood67, 12 March 2014 - 09:55 AM.