Spotlight: Neighbours From Hell: An abuse, crime, or both?
You've undoubtedly seen the term 'NFH' on the Neighbours From Hell in Britain community pages in more than one place and maybe come across its use in other areas of life. Chances are though that you've heard the terminology 'Neighbour From Hell' (NFH). Most people have and it's a term we all use in varying descriptions and applications of use.
Neighbours From Hell form many, many different types of situation and really are a personal issue of interpretation, lets though have a look at the different types of what can constitute a Neighbour From Hell.
Firstly and most obviously a neighbour is often someone who lives close by to you or in your immediate vicinity. Whether you have a neighbour who is a commercial business (say a noisy factory), an individual or family that are causing you distress through their noisy behaviours next door, they are most probably your neighbour in the literal sense. Your neighbour could be a source of disturbance or distress and most certainly are a nuisance if you are bothered by their actions.
An NFH doesn't actually have to live immediately next door to you.
As strange as this may seem in some senses, let's consider the anti-social behaviour and specific crimes that orientate from gangs of young people or adults on the street. Let's look at the local people who regularly display and use antisocial behaviour to the detriment of other local residents in their area. These NFH could live down the road from you, opposite your house or even in your local area and may not be a 'neighbour' in the traditional sense of the word. They may even be individuals or gangs that regularly use your community for their activities, but whoever and wherever they are, they could well be your 'NFH'.
So, your 'neighbour' can really cover everything and anything and if you are unfortunate to have a neighbour from hell, one or more of these areas is going to be very, very familiar to you.
Neighbours From Hell in Britain members experience a whole host of neighbour problems and sometimes these problematic neighbour issues can be vast and encompass a lot of different areas.
It's impossible to list them all here and with all the subtle differences, but suffice to say NFH areas are considerable. Most importantly it's not often we see and experience problems in isolation, with one issue almost certainly comes another NFH problem.
Let's look at the possibilities. Your neighbour could be making a lot of noise, this could well be human or machine made (hi-fi and music noise or neighbour arguments for example). What if you've got a neighbour who is harassing you (racially or sexually), bullying and intimidating you (physically or verbally), threatening/stalking you or displaying homophobic behaviour - these are all forms of NFH actions.
You could have a boundary or garden orientated issue with your neighbour, a dispute over land or right of way, again these are just as important and valid situations where you could be experiencing a Neighbour From Hell.
Perhaps some of these really strike accord with you or you could be suffering with a neighbours pet (dog problems for example), rubbish/litter problems, car parking troubles, children/young-people problem situations, or just general crime in your area.
The area can be huge and as equally diverse. In a past poll conducted by Neighbours From Hell in Britain, the top percentage of voters at that time listed Noise as their main NFH problem. We're willing to bet if we asked each one of those voters who selected noise if they had other NFH associated problems such as bullying or antisocial behaviour, 99% of them would say yes.
Basically speaking if you have a problem that is bothering you or intruding into your life via a neighbour, then it's a problem purely and simply. It's a relative issue - you may not think your problem constitutes a neighbour problem but remember it's a deeply personal issue; what may disturb you with noise issues, may not disturb others for example.
Don't fall into the trap of comparing yourself with other NFH sufferers although you will undoubtedly see similarities and differences between your situation and that of other victims. This is good as it can help you recognise you're not alone and you are experiencing similar issues that many other people live with too. It's to be expected with these commonanilities, but every single NFH victim is unique in what they experience and endure.