Spotlight: After the tinsel is torn? (Part 2)
Our use of the abbreviation 'NFH' is now so widespread throughout our online community, we feel it should now be included in the Oxford Dictionary, let's see what we can come up with:
Otherwise known as the 'Neighbour From Hell'.
A popular term derived for those individuals or groups thereof, who most often knowingly inflict pain and suffering on their neighbours and communities at large through 'un-neighbourly' behaviour. Suffering methods most often include harassment, noise assault, bullying/intimidation, unwanted neighbour-nuisance, anti-social behaviour, rudeness, boundary/planning issues and general self-blinkered attitudes by those in the role of an NFH.
I'm sure we could work on that description and maybe we will, for next time. Maybe you want to add to it over at the forum board or through feedback to us, either way you can be sure it will need some additional descriptive detail.
Anyway back to Christmas and the New Year. Chances are if you're reading this you're here because you experienced or suffered with a problem over Christmas or the festive season. Maybe it was the first time it happened and hopefully it may be the last.
Sadly though for the majority of Neighbour From Hell victims the problem is persistence personified, it doesn't just happen over Christmas, the New Year or any other holiday period, it occurs all year round, all day round and all hour round. It doesn't go away easily, and unlike a bad smell, it cannot often be solved by opening a window. The smell gets worse; the problem often decays even more over time.
If you've experienced an NFH problem for the first time during this festive season just past and you're yet to approach your neighbour, grasp the nettle and do it. Have a friendly word if you can, bring it to their attention and attempt to prevent it from re-occurring, if you can. Plan your approach, implement what you've rehearsed positively and as well-mannered as you can make it. Sure, we understand you could well be decidedly hacked off as your Christmas has been ruined, but keep a cool head and a cool tongue.
NFHiB always, upon always, recommends approaching your NFH in the first instance within any NFH situation, wherever possible to let them know there is a problem. Take into account the details and personal safety relating to your particular situation from the self-help articles first though, this is very important. Don't go alone and don't approach your neighbour if you're in any danger whatsoever or are at risk to your personal safety. Ask for police, friend or family support/advice if you need to, safer is better than sorry, always. Read our advice in the articles, we've tried to make it as generally covering to everyone as possible, but NFHiB realise it isn't always possible to cover everyone's circumstances. This is one of the biggest reasons for the successful existence of the NFHiB Forum Board.
If you're a 'seasoned sufferer', and we don't apologise for the pun, then don't be alone, use the NFHiB Forum. It's what we're here for, for free. We don't close at Bank Holidays, the weekends or at Christmas. We're open all hours from 9-5 and way outside those, 24 hours a day. There's always someone about to help you, listen, advise and above all really understand what you feel like.
That knot in your stomach, the over-sensitivity you feel, the dread, the nervousness, scared feelings, nausea, embarrassment, anxious thoughts - they're all far more common than you think. All NFH sufferers experience these kinds of thoughts and a whole host of other feelings we've not even mentioned here.
We'd love to think there's no NFH sufferers out there and we welcome the day there are no Neighbour From Hell victims in our community. The NFHiB forum is daily living proof of the problem, we welcome the day with open arms that our forum board has no members with NFH problems because the Neighbour From Hell issues have been totally eradicated in our lives and societies, permanently.